How do you respond to someone who directly asks to be invited to your wedding?

There's an ex-coworker who's asked via facebook to be invited to my wedding twice now and I'm not sure how to respond. Since he left the office we haven't hung out. I invited him to a X-mas party but he never showed up. I wasn't planning to invite him so how can I nicely tell him no. Two others from that office will be there, one is the minister's wife and the other is the bride's good friend.

How do you respond to someone who directly asks to be invited to your wedding?
Say, "Wow! You must have a really great present that you can't wait to give me!"
Reply:Say you've had to limit invitations to friends because the venue only caters for 80 (or whatever number you feel appropriate) and that is accounted for with your relatives.
Reply:I had a coworker once who put me on the spot by asking if she was invited to my wedding (which she wasn't.) At the time she was asking, I was able to truthfully tell her that we were still putting together our guest list - and that's all I said. She never brought it up again.





I would just say, "I am so sorry, but the guest list has been planned. I appreciate that you care about our special day."





Maybe this person doesn't know any better manners and thinks very highly of you.
Reply:In my opinion, I feel you should let him know that your are having difficulty trying to stay within the proper capacity expected from you. Therefore, you can only invite close family and friends to the wedding. However, if he is available a nice outing with a few friends would be great after wards. Hope it helps, and congratulations!!!
Reply:I would suggest that you tell him that you and your bride to be are having a hard time cutting down the guest list because it is so large and therefore are having to limit it to family, close friends and significant others of the wedding participants. If he gets upset or continues to pester you then since you will have already tried the "nice" approach then tell him no. He'll have to deal with it.
Reply:tell him to go f*ck himself
Reply:You are not required to invite this person, or anyone else who wasn't already invited. He is in the wrong for asking you. Just ignore it for now, it's possible he might get the hint. If he asks again, just tell him you're sorry, but no. If you need to give him a reason, say that the invitations have gone out and you cannot invite anyone else. Stick to your guns, it's your wedding and you have a right to have it the way you and your fiancee want it.





Best wishes!
Reply:If you must give him an answer, I would simply say, we have a limited guest list, and hope to see him after you are married, possibly for dinner. Later it is up to you whether or not you want to see this person again. I would not send an invitation! You need not give any more explanation.
Reply:Look,this is your wedding,your special day.You do not have to invite anyone that you do not want to.You do not even have to give an explanation.


lf they ask again,just tell them you are committed to a certain number of guests.
Reply:Don't promise him anything and just don't send him any invitation. Or tell him there are too many relatives on both sides leaving you with no extra vacancy.
Reply:Just say your wedding is going to only be close family, there are only about twenty people going. Then change the subject! I'm doing the same (with -hopefully- only about twenty people, I know it won't actually work though!)
Reply:He is a cheeky so and so isn't he. No way to do it other than be honest and say that all the invites are sent out and much as you would love to, you simply cannot invite everyone, and that you are sure he understands the situation, what with the cost of weddings these days, but if he wants to take you out for a drink to celebrate your forthcoming nuptuals, then you would enjoy that. Bet you don't hear from him in a hurry. It is the height of bad manners to invite yourself to someone's wedding. My sister did it once to a very grand affair. She had only met the bride twice, they did get on well, but the bride had been a friend of mine for twenty years and I wasn't invited. My parents were and my sister made it impossible for my friend to refuse. Needless to say my sister has not been invited anywhere by them since and they throw a lot of parties. This person is not thinking of you, only himself, he already let you down for the Christmas party, without excusing himself, you need not worry about sparing his feelings.
Reply:How well do you know them?


How much do you like them?


If no to one or more say no.
Reply:Well, if you were planning to invite him anyway, its not a problem. But if you dont want him to come, and he doesn't keep in contact, just say you're only inviting close friends and family.





i did.








And to Danny, its an incredibly arrogrant thing to ask to go to someones wedding. Thats what invitations are for. If someone wants you there, they'll ask you. thats how it works.





By your logic, I should get to go.
Reply:Ignore his request. If he calls you on the phone and asks, tell him that you'll check with your fiancee, as she's handling the invitations which are somewhat limited. Then ignore him. He's a boor.
Reply:Just say thanks for the offer but I have other plans
Reply:Hi Danny, just so you know, I'm coming to your wedding. I don't know you but I feel it's necessary seeing as it's rude not to invite me.





Puh-lease.





I think politely say there are too many invites/what everyone else has said, and if he bug you, ignore him.
Reply:just tell them you are limited to how many you can have and your already well over your quota x
Reply:Tell him the invitations already went out, so he should wait by the mailbox.





Ignore the facebook for a while.... that is way too easy.
Reply:Why pressure yourself to tell him nicely. He didn't respond to the Christmas party so he's rude. Be blunt, just tell him he's not invited - it's for friends and family only. He'll get the hint.
Reply:Just don't send him an invitation. I think he's got a damned cheek to ask for an invitation. Since my daughter recently got married, I know how difficult it is to juggle invitations between the bride's family and the groom's, and it's diffficult enough coping with family invitations without loser hangers on muscling in. I wish you and your bride every happiness, and don't let losers like that spoil your special day.
Reply:well if you invited him to a christmas party and he didnt i wouldnt invite he shouldnt ask to be invited to your wedding just tell him you can only invite a certain number of people to it
Reply:Tell him the wedding's been canceled lol
Reply:im afraid the polite thing to do would be to invite that person.even if you dont want them there.That happened to someone i know too, once.they had to invite the person not to seem rude.
Reply:I think ure an unpleasant person for not letting him be part of the special day - why would u want to exclude him? Do u like making him feel worthless and unloved? What did he do to u. For all u know he skipped the xmas party because he couldnt bare to stand in a room full of people yet feel so alone. Why do u never think about anyone but yourself.





Let him come to the wedding - we are on this big spinning planet with no idea why we are here and all we have is eachother and all ure concerned about is whether this guy turns up at ure wedding? U seriously need to re evaluate ure life sunshine.