What is the best way to extend an open invitation to a wedding?

I wish to invite some of my friends and associates to a wedding and reception, however, I do not want them to feel obligated to come. I am planning on the event to be very personal and family oriented. I am sort of in a difficult situation because on one hand I do not want it to be a situation where I DONT invite them but on the other hand, I do not want them to come and feel uncomfortable. I really would like for my friends and associates to be there, but as a courtesy I would hate to make them feel like they are being put through 2 hours of drudgery simply because they felt obligated to come. Most of my relatives can be very long winded when making toasts and other presentations.

What is the best way to extend an open invitation to a wedding?
A personal invitation is so much nicer than just a " shout out". This is a very special day, and invite those you would like to share it with. Do not worry about obligations at all. Some may not be able to come, but they most certainly will appreciate the personal invitation
Reply:Just send out the invitation and ask them to RSVP. If they send their regrets, be sure that you communicate what you have said here to them so that they do not feel too guilty about not coming. But honestly, weddings are usually more fun for the guests than for the "happy couple" that killed themselves planning it and stressing about their future. All the guests have to do is sit through a ceremony and then eat a free dinner and dance with cute singles. You can only feel too bad for your friends and family if you have a reception with an open bar. If you feel like they aren't having fun, then maybe you should find happier friends or at least friends that care enough about you to pretend they are having a good time.
Reply:No true friend would feel put upon to be there to see you begin your life with your new wife. And a lot of people you will find will not show up but if they didn't get an invitation they would feel like you slighted them. You could just but an announcement in the paper . Hey it's you and your spouse's big day so do it the way you two want too. And Good Luck
Reply:It's a special occasion and the last thing you should be thinking about is other peoples opinion. Invite everyone and feel happy with your decision. If they don't attend that's fine just make sure they buy you a wedding gift. Just Kidding. But seriously invite whomever you wish with no strings attached.